If you have experienced infidelity or unfaithfulness, there can be nothing which can soothe you. But, life goes on and you will also have to one day. Then, why not start from today? Read on to find how to cope with an unfaithful relationship.
Cry On
There is no point in hiding your pain and emotions. Give yourself that time to grieve and erase the pain in your heart. Make sure you do not bottle up your feelings and emotions as this might not be good in the longer run. Talk to your friend, sibling, parents, or colleague – anyone you are close to. Choose your confidante wisely though, someone who is your true well-wisher. Confide in that person and let go of yourself while grieving. Don’t hold back.
Is It That Bad?
All of us have different definitions of cheating. So, what did your partner actually do? Was it a date, a kiss, two-timing? What according to you is infidelity? If your partner hasn’t done something heinous and is worthy of forgiveness, then think over it. But again the choice and decision is completely yours. Take time and decide. If you decide to move on, then do it faithfully without having doubts.
Analyze And Understand
There is always a reason behind our actions. Sometimes we fail to understand that we ourselves lead others to hurt us. Figure out why your partner cheated. The reasons can be many. Maybe your partner was never the committed types, in which case you should consider yourself lucky that things came into light early.
Sometimes, our partners never let go of their ex-flames and they seek an opportunity to bring them back into their life. If that’s what happened to you, it happened for the best. In any case, your partner was not justified in cheating on you and do not try to justify the act.
Do Not Humiliate Yourself
Our pride is wounded easily when we fall out of a relationship. In this case, it is very easy to blame yourself brutally for the whole thing. You are not the one to be blamed, your partner is. Do not ever feel that you were being cheated because of your looks.
Do not be harsh on yourself by labeling yourself as fat, ugly, unattractive or anything demeaning. You have a heart of gold and believe in that. Someone deserving is worthy of your love and attention and have faith in destiny.
Something New
A break up they say is the best excuse for a makeover. Go for it – spend some on your looks or buy something which you wanted for long. Start a hobby – be it cooking, dancing, writing or music, the choice is yours completely. Take this time to understand yourself.
I Am Sorry
How do you cope when your partner seeks your forgiveness? Again, you are the best judge here. Do not make haste just because you have decided to punish your partner. Sometimes we stray and are sorry for that. Maybe you are the true love for your partner; in that case it never hurts to give a second chance. But again take your time and take it slow. If you have decided to give him/her a second chance, start by going on friendly dates and this time take time to analyze your relationship. Confide and commit when you are absolutely sure that you can trust again.
Whatever you do, refrain from starting a new relationship just to let go of your past. A rebound is as dangerous as infidelity and often leaves both the partners deeply hurt. Understand that you too deserve a faithful and loving relationship and believe in miracles.
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